This website is a place to share. It's not usual that events on a national stage hit so close to home but I, like many of you, watched Christine Blasey Ford's testimony in front of the Senate Judiciary Committee on national TV. I also watched Brett Kavanaugh's heated denials.
My thoughts were with Kavanaugh's wife. She, like many of us on Not the Life, may have found the whole tears, anger, denial circus sadly familiar. Maybe not. Luckily for her, the committee voted for her husband's version of events. But she must know her husband pretty well (or has come to the conclusion that she doesn't know her husband at all.) In any case she has a long road ahead.
On the other side of the political spectrum, Hilary Clinton says that, years ago, when she was forced to decide whether or not to leave Bill Clinton over his infidelities with Monica Lewinski (et. al.) she asked herself what she says is the most important question: "Do I still love him?"
I beg to differ. When faced with this impossible choice, even if we tell ourselves "Yes I still love him" we have to ask ourselves, "Does this person deserve my love?" Is this person now (or willing to become) honest/ trustworthy? Is he into "victim blaming" Does he expect me to follow along lockstep with his version of events in spite of what I know about his proclivities/weaknesses, (perhaps his drinking, his bullying, his other betrayals?)
When we can say "Yes" with a clear conscience to the second question: "Yes, he worthy of my love?" then, and only then, can we decide the question "Should we stay? Or should we go?"
And proceed down the long difficult road set before us.
