All About Him

The following things I have learned directly from my husband, Jake, through my experiences as his wife, through my own personal research (i.e. snooping), or in open court. I will not put anything here that has been told to me by Jake's treatment provider or lawyer.

• He is a sex addict. His main addiction is porn.
• He has visited prostitutes, massage parlors, and bath houses during our marriage.
• He used online social networks to seek out affairs and had sex online with at least two women during our marriage, but likely more than that
• He had an inappropriate relationship with a student before we were married, but I don't know the nature of it or what lines were crossed. No charges have been brought on this, but the authorities know and, since Colorado has no statute of limitations on sex crimes, he will have that hanging over his head forever.
• The act that caused him to be arrested was the inappropriate touching of a student's breast and torso on the outside of her clothing. This followed a month-long flirtation between the two of them. 
• After being arrested, a search of his computers uncovered child pornography.

Now that I have written that down, I have come up with yet another reason why other blogging wives aren't describing their husband's crimes: It is painful.

And I now feel like I am selling him out to a world of strangers who will condemn him all over again. That is not my agenda, so tomorrow I will give you a balancing perspective from the part of me that loves him, that sees value in his character, that still has a lingering hope that he can reform.